Boys - Siblings

Pippa Wallis

If one more person asks me when I am having my next I will scream!

Rafferty has asked for a sibling on a couple of occasions but he has also asked for a tattoo on several occasions too and I wouldn't give him one of those just because he asked for it.

People accuse only children of being spoilt, I can only speak from my experience in that out of all my friends that have more then one child they spend two to three times the amount on their children then we spend on Raff at Christmas and birthdays. I know spoilt kids that are only ones and just as many that have siblings - thats down to the parents not how many siblings they have!

Have you heard the saying "lonely only"? This is one of the most stupid phrases I have ever heard. Being lovely isn't about being surrounded by people. You could be from a family of 15 and still be lonely. I am an only child and lonely certainly isn't a word I would use to describe my childhood, it was quite the opposite in fact. Loneliness isn't a physical condition its a feeling, a state of mind.

Someone actually had the audacity to say that I was "cruel" only having one child. Its offensive on so many levels I don't even know where to start, but I will try. First of all there are children out there sadly whose parents are actually cruel to them, I mean cruel beyond comprehension and using the same word to describe their behaviour with the fact that Robert and I have decided against having a second child is ludicrous.

Secondly, my boy is the happiest little boy you ever did meet, having a sibling does not automatically promise happiness. You will find happy only children and sad only children just like you will find the same of children with siblings. I have many a friend that have a terrible or non existent relationship with their siblings. in fact I know siblings falling out that have torn families apart - imagine having children that cannot stand being in the same room as each other.

Lastly there are many reasons some families only have one child, infertility, the chances of passing on diseases that are hereditary, already having children with complex needs, financial reasons, break down of relationships or just a lifestyle choice. The biggest reason we, as a couple decided against another child is that my pregnancy and Raffertys birth was so traumatic I would fear for my mental health. And why? For what reason? We have a happy, healthy son and its enough for us.

Thats not to say that people shouldn't have as many children as they wish it just means people should maybe think before they call parents of only children mean or cruel! As long as all these children, be it from big or small families and happy and loved I say live and let live x